{"id":1026,"date":"2020-04-12T16:41:55","date_gmt":"2020-04-12T13:41:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/?p=1026"},"modified":"2020-05-17T17:20:08","modified_gmt":"2020-05-17T14:20:08","slug":"is-hayatinizi-varliginizla-yapin-ama-hayatinizi-tamamen-ona-baglamayin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/?p=1026","title":{"rendered":"\u0130\u015f hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zla yap\u0131n ama hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 tamamen ona ba\u011flanmay\u0131n"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 pek \u00e7ok ki\u015fi, i\u015f kanserine yakalan\u0131r. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131n\u0131n yo\u011fun faaliyetleri, ya\u015famlar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6teki y\u00f6nlerini y\u0131kar. Bu hastal\u0131k \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fc olabilir ve hi\u00e7 ku\u015fkusuz i\u015fletmeler a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan da hi\u00e7 iyi sonu\u00e7 vermez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu insanlar \u00e7al\u0131\u015farak b\u00fct\u00fcn hayatlar\u0131n\u0131 bo\u015fa harcarlar. Kendi kendilerini yenilgiye u\u011frat\u0131rlar. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ok ciddiye al\u0131rlar. Yanl\u0131\u015f nedenler u\u011fruna \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. \u0130\u015fin ba\u015fl\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131na bir sonu\u00e7 de\u011fil, ancak, sonuca varan bir yol oldu\u011funu unuturlar. \u0130\u015f, d\u00fcnyan\u0131n en heyecanl\u0131 oyunudur. Bilinen b\u00fct\u00fcn etkinliklerden daha \u00e7ok, daha b\u00fcy\u00fck, daha zengin, ruhsal ve parasal \u00f6d\u00fcller verir. Bu nedenle, i\u015f hayat\u0131 daha \u00e7ok, \u00fcst\u00fcn nitelikli ki\u015fileri b\u00fcnyesine \u00e7eker. Geni\u015f yetenekleri, ilgi alanlar\u0131, becerileri olan, zeki, \u015fakac\u0131, enerjik, atak, yarat\u0131c\u0131, hayal g\u00fcc\u00fc geni\u015f, istekli, ama\u00e7l\u0131, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fkan ve maceraperest ki\u015fileri&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130\u015f hayat\u0131 bu kadar heyecanl\u0131 oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlar\u0131n kendini kapt\u0131rmas\u0131 sorun yarat\u0131r. O kadar heyecana kap\u0131l\u0131rlar ki, neden i\u015f d\u00fcnyas\u0131na girdiklerini unuturlar. \u00c7al\u0131\u015fmak i\u00e7in ya\u015famaya, ya da al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k haline geldi\u011fi i\u00e7in \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaya ba\u015flarlar. \u0130\u015fin getirdi\u011fi \u00f6d\u00fclleri ak\u0131llar\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131rlar. B\u00f6yle birinin durumu, \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 s\u00fcrece \u00e7ok \u00fcz\u00fcc\u00fcd\u00fcr; ama \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 b\u0131rak\u0131nca, trajik boyutlara ula\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>B\u00fct\u00fcn hayatlar\u0131n\u0131 i\u015fe adayan, istemeden emekliye ayr\u0131l\u0131p i\u015flerinden yoksun kal\u0131nca da kendilerini bombo\u015f hisseden az insan m\u0131 tan\u0131yorsunuz? Bunlar i\u015f tiryakisi olup i\u015ften yoksun kal\u0131nca, ya\u015fama ama\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 yitirirler. K\u0131sa s\u00fcrede \u00e7\u00f6ker ve \u00f6l\u00fcp giderler.<br \/>Tipik bir \u00f6rne\u011fi ele alal\u0131m.<br \/>Gen\u00e7 bir adam, b\u00fct\u00fcn enerji ve heyecan\u0131yla i\u015fe ba\u015fl\u0131yor. Birka\u00e7 k\u00f6t\u00fc ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7tan sonra, yeteneklerine uygun hayalindekine yak\u0131n bir i\u015f buluyor. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131n\u0131n heyecan\u0131n\u0131 ke\u015ffediyor. Elindeki kozlar\u0131 do\u011fru oynarsa, ula\u015fabilece\u011fi \u00f6d\u00fclleri g\u00f6r\u00fcyor. \u0130\u015fine dald\u0131k\u00e7a, daha da heyecanlan\u0131yor. Bir ka\u00e7 zafer kazand\u0131\u011f\u0131nda \u00f6n\u00fcnde yeni ufuklar\u0131n a\u00e7\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcyor. Kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki \u00f6d\u00fcller \u015fimdi daha b\u00fcy\u00fckt\u00fcr. \u0130\u015fi daha karma\u015f\u0131kt\u0131r ama, bu y\u00fczden daha da ilgin\u00e7 bir hale gelmi\u015ftir. Giderek geli\u015fti\u011fini hissediyor ve kendine ba\u015fka g\u00f6zle bakmaya ba\u015fl\u0131yor. Sonra herkes gibi, biraz a\u00e7 g\u00f6zl\u00fc, ya da biraz fazla rekabet\u00e7i ve sab\u0131rs\u0131z oluyor. Kendine kestirme bir yol se\u00e7erek, ya da varamayaca\u011f\u0131 yerlere uzanarak do\u011fal b\u00fcy\u00fcme i\u015flemini h\u0131zland\u0131rmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor. Elbette, bunun hemen ard\u0131ndan, dertler geliyor, sorunlar \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. \u0130\u015fler yolunda gitmemeye ba\u015fl\u0131yor. Art\u0131k se\u00e7ene\u011fi yoktur. Bizzat kendi yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 sorunlar\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zmek i\u00e7in her g\u00fcn saatlerce u\u011fra\u015fmak zorundad\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>B\u00fct\u00fcn enerjisi, vakti ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleri i\u015f hayat\u0131na ayr\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Art\u0131k ailesine ay\u0131racak zaman\u0131 yoktur. Bal\u0131\u011fa \u00e7\u0131kamaz, evinde tamirat yapamaz, m\u00fczeye gidemez, yada parkta y\u00fcr\u00fcy\u00fc\u015f yapamaz. Geceleri dahi yatakta g\u00f6zleri a\u00e7\u0131k yatar. Beyni sabaha kadar i\u015f sorunlar\u0131yla yo\u011frulur durur. H\u00e2l\u00e2 golf oynar ama, sadece i\u015ften s\u00f6z eden i\u015f adamlar\u0131yla&#8230; \u0130\u015f adamlar\u0131yla yemek yeyip i\u015f konu\u015fur. \u0130\u015f adamlar\u0131yla i\u00e7ki i\u00e7ip i\u015ften s\u00f6z eder: \u0130\u015f adamlar\u0131yla seyahate \u00e7\u0131k\u0131p i\u015f tart\u0131\u015f\u0131r. H\u00e2l\u00e2 okur ama, sadece i\u015f ve ticaretle ilgili dergi ve kitaplar\u0131. K\u0131saca, o i\u015fiyle evlidir ve i\u015finin tutsa\u011f\u0131d\u0131r. Su\u00e7lu olansa yaln\u0131z kendidir. \u015eimdi s\u00f6yleyin. B\u00f6yle bir hayat\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmeyi siz istermiydiniz? Elbette hay\u0131r!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tabii ki, i\u015f hayat\u0131nda sorumluluklar\u0131m\u0131z olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Ama tek boyutlu bir insan olmay\u0131n. Ya da i\u015f endi\u015feleri sizde hastal\u0131k haline gelmesin. K\u00f6le gibi \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmay\u0131n ve en k\u00f6t\u00fcs\u00fc i\u015f al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131na saplan\u0131p kalmay\u0131n. \u0130\u015finizi olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011finden fazla hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n merkezine almay\u0131n. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 i\u00e7in bu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceyi kabullenmek hayli zor olabilir. Hele aksi y\u00f6nde bir e\u011fitimden ge\u00e7mi\u015flerse. Zaten i\u015f hayat\u0131 b\u00fct\u00fcn ilgi ve faaliyetlerden a\u011f\u0131r bas\u0131yorsa, de\u011fi\u015fmeleri bir hayli g\u00fc\u00e7t\u00fcr. Yine de, \u015fu ger\u00e7ek kan\u0131tlanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r: Mesle\u011finizi, ilgilendi\u011finiz konulardan sadece biri gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcrseniz, i\u015finizde daha geni\u015f bir bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131na sahip olursunuz ve de\u011feriniz artar.<br \/>Kendini \u015firketine adayan adam, art\u0131k ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 biri olarak kabul edilmiyor. Bilin\u00e7li \u015firket y\u00f6neticilerinden pek \u00e7o\u011fu bu ger\u00e7e\u011fi kavram\u0131\u015f bulunuyor. Elbette h\u00e2l\u00e2 anlamak istemeyenler de var. Bunlar, sizden ve ailenizden, \u015firketi u\u011frunda neredeyse can verilecek bir de\u011fer gibi g\u00f6rmenizi ister, cumartesi, pazar g\u00fcnleri ve di\u011fer tatillerde dahi \u00e7al\u0131\u015facak kadar bir sadakat ve itaat beklerler. Oysa bu sizin i\u00e7in bir kazan\u00e7 de\u011fildir. Tam tersine, buna izin verdi\u011finiz, ya da sadece \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak i\u00e7in \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaya ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z g\u00fcn, kaybedersiniz. \u00dcstelik sadece kendiniz kaybetmekle kalmaz, \u015firketinize de kaybettirmeye ba\u015flars\u0131n\u0131z. \u0130\u015fine son derece ba\u011fl\u0131 memurlar\u0131yla \u00f6v\u00fcnen y\u00f6netici biraz daha d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmelidir. Her \u015feyden \u00f6nce, kendini her y\u00f6n\u00fcyle ve her \u015feyiyle i\u015fe veren adam\u0131n \u00e7ok dar bir bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 ve pek az yeni fikri vard\u0131r. Kendini o kadar i\u015fe verir ki, \u00e7evresindeki geli\u015fmeleri g\u00f6remez. Fark\u0131na varmadan \u00f6ylesine geride kal\u0131r ki, art\u0131k ne yapsa ilerdekilere yeti\u015femez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130\u015finizden m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011fu kadar \u00e7ok zevk almaya bak\u0131n. Hedefiniz \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak de\u011fil, i\u015fin getirdi\u011fi \u00f6d\u00fcller olsun. Bunlar\u0131 s\u00f6ylerken, kendinizi asla i\u015finize vermemelisiniz demek istemiyorum. Bazen buna mecbur kal\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. \u0130yi bir f\u0131rsat yakalamak, geli\u015fmek, ayakta kalabilmek, ilerlemek, i\u015fe kar\u015f\u0131 olan sadakatinize ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. Siz yada \u015firketiniz, \u00e7ok ciddi bir durumla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda kendinizi y\u00fczde y\u00fcz i\u015fe vermelisiniz. Ama bunun bir huy haline gelmesine asla izin vermeyin. \u0130\u015f, engin bir tecr\u00fcbedir. Ama hayat da \u00f6yledir. Hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 i\u015f u\u011fruna feda etmeyin. \u00c7ok k\u00f6t\u00fc bir al\u0131\u015f veri\u015f yapm\u0131\u015f olursunuz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Kaynak: Richard Conarroe &#8211; Y\u00f6netimde alt\u0131n kurallar.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 pek \u00e7ok ki\u015fi, i\u015f kanserine yakalan\u0131r. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131n\u0131n yo\u011fun faaliyetleri, ya\u015famlar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6teki y\u00f6nlerini y\u0131kar. Bu hastal\u0131k \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fc olabilir ve hi\u00e7 ku\u015fkusuz i\u015fletmeler a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan da hi\u00e7 iyi sonu\u00e7 vermez. Bu insanlar \u00e7al\u0131\u015farak b\u00fct\u00fcn hayatlar\u0131n\u0131 bo\u015fa harcarlar. Kendi kendilerini yenilgiye u\u011frat\u0131rlar. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ok ciddiye al\u0131rlar. Yanl\u0131\u015f nedenler u\u011fruna \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. \u0130\u015fin ba\u015fl\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131na bir sonu\u00e7 de\u011fil, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[20],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1026"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1026"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1026\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1086,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1026\/revisions\/1086"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1026"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1026"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1026"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}