Asla, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n da sizin kurallar\u0131n\u0131za g\u00f6re davrand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeyin. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131n\u0131 y\u00fcr\u00fctenler kurallara g\u00f6re hareket edenlerdir. Hakl\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z, i\u015f hayat\u0131nda \u00e7ok say\u0131da h\u0131rs\u0131z, yalanc\u0131, doland\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 ve d\u00fczenbaz vard\u0131r. Bu ki\u015filer, genellikle davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 o anl\u0131k ki\u015fisel \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131na g\u00f6re de\u011fi\u015ftirirler.Yine de, i\u015f hayat\u0131nda \u00e7o\u011funlukla kurallara g\u00f6re oynamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131l\u0131r. Sorun, herkesin kural\u0131n\u0131n farkl\u0131 olmas\u0131d\u0131r. Futbol ve voleybol gibi oyunlar\u0131n oyuncular\u0131 \u015fansl\u0131d\u0131r. Oynayacaklar\u0131 oyunun kurallar\u0131 de\u011fi\u015fmez bi\u00e7imde saptanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Herkes, oyundaki her durumda, hangi kural\u0131n ge\u00e7erli oldu\u011funu iyi bilir. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131ndaki insanlarsa o kadar \u015fansl\u0131 de\u011fildir. Yapt\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n \u00e7o\u011funu kapsayan evrensel bir kural yoktur. Baz\u0131 sigortalar\u0131n, ticaret odalar\u0131n\u0131n hizmetlerinden yararlanmaktay\u0131z. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n
Ayn\u0131 zamanda arz ve talep kanunumuz, mahkemelerimiz, her \u00e7e\u015fit yaz\u0131l\u0131 s\u00f6zle\u015fmemiz, y\u00f6netim prensiplerimiz var. Ama bunlar i\u015f denen oyunun sadece belli b\u00f6l\u00fcmlerini kapsar. G\u00fcnl\u00fck, y\u00fcz y\u00fcze \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131m\u0131zda ki\u015fi olarak izleyebilece\u011fimiz bir kural, kabul edilen bir \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma tarz\u0131 yok. Yine de insanlar\u0131n bu g\u00fcnl\u00fck i\u015f ili\u015fkileri, birlikte \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131, m\u00fccadele ve rekabetleri, i\u015f d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131n o karma\u015f\u0131k yap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n temel ta\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 olu\u015fturur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Elbette i\u015f hayat\u0131nda herkesin kabul etti\u011fi baz\u0131 temel kurallar vard\u0131r.
\u00d6rne\u011fin, herkes temel kural olarak d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc kabul eder. Hemen hemen herkes, kendini d\u00fcr\u00fcst g\u00f6r\u00fcr. (D\u00fcr\u00fcst olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 itiraf eden pek az ki\u015fi, herhalde aralar\u0131nda en d\u00fcr\u00fcst olanlar\u0131d\u0131r). Yine de hepimiz d\u00fcr\u00fcst olmayan i\u015fler yap\u0131p, davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 hakl\u0131 g\u00f6stermeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r\u0131z. Amac\u0131m\u0131z bu temel kurala kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kmak de\u011fildir. Sadece kural\u0131 biraz e\u011feriz. Nereye kadar ve hangi y\u00f6ne e\u011fdi\u011fimiz, ki\u015fisel davran\u0131\u015f tarz\u0131m\u0131za ve duruma g\u00f6re de\u011fi\u015febilir, Sizin yapt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131z bana g\u00f6re d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fc\u011fe s\u0131\u011fmayabilir. Benim davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131m sizi \u00e7ileden \u00e7\u0131karabilir. Yine de hepimiz, bu oyunu kendi kurallar\u0131m\u0131za g\u00f6re oynar\u0131z. Durup d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnseniz, nas\u0131l siz ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n kurallar\u0131yla oynayamazsan\u0131z, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n da sizin kurallar\u0131n\u0131zla oynamas\u0131na imk\u00e2n olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlars\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130\u015f d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda de, kurallar\u0131 bir birinkinden tamamen farkl\u0131 d\u00fcnya milyonlarca ki\u015fi olacakt\u0131r. B\u00fct\u00fcn kan\u0131tlar tersini g\u00f6sterse de, i\u015f hayat\u0131nda pek \u00e7ok ki\u015fi, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n da kendi kurallar\u0131na g\u00f6re oynad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 san\u0131r. \u00c7ok yanl\u0131\u015f bir tuzakt\u0131r bu. Sonu\u00e7 olarak, pek \u00e7o\u011fu ho\u015f olmayan s\u00fcrprizlere kar\u015f\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k ve zay\u0131f kal\u0131rlar. Hayallerinize esir olmay\u0131n, ama i\u015f hayat\u0131nda baz\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n kirli oyunlar oynamas\u0131 da sizi hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011fratmas\u0131n. Bu, i\u015f hayat\u0131n\u0131n ger\u00e7eklerindendir. Kirli oyunlar ve temiz oyuncular vard\u0131r, temiz oyuncular bile sizin kurallar\u0131n\u0131za g\u00f6re kirli \u015feyler yapabilirler. Kendinize a\u00e7\u0131k se\u00e7ik i\u015f kurallar\u0131 saptaman\u0131n ve bu kurallar\u0131 herkese duyurman\u0131n b\u00fcy\u00fck avantajlar\u0131 vard\u0131r. Bu avantajlardan biri, insanlar\u0131n size g\u00fcvenmeye ba\u015flamas\u0131d\u0131r. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n g\u00fcvenini kazanmak, ba\u015fl\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131na b\u00fcy\u00fck de\u011fer ta\u015f\u0131r. \u00dcst\u00fcne \u00fcstl\u00fck ba\u015fkalar\u0131, saptad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z kurallar\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenince ve bunlar\u0131 uygulamadaki kararl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 anlay\u0131nca, sizinle g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrken ya da sizinle ilgili olan durumlarda, yine sizin kurallar\u0131n\u0131za g\u00f6re davranmaya ba\u015flarlar. B\u00f6ylece, en az\u0131ndan bir sorunu \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcmlemi\u015f ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n hangi kurallar \u00e7er\u00e7evesinde \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmekten kurtulmu\u015f olursunuz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00d6zellikle bu i\u015fin en zor taraf\u0131, uyacaklar\u0131 kurallar\u0131n ne oldu\u011funu saptayabilmektir. Asl\u0131nda, kural diye bir \u015fey yoktur. En az\u0131ndan, hi\u00e7 biri haz\u0131r ve yerle\u015fik de\u011fildir. Kendi prensiplerinizi bulup, m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011fu kadar onlara ba\u011fl\u0131 kalmak zorundas\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ama akl\u0131n\u0131zdan \u00e7\u0131karmay\u0131n, ba\u015fkalar\u0131 da sizin gibi g\u00fcnl\u00fck i\u015f sorunlar\u0131n\u0131n pratik ger\u00e7ekleriyle, ahl\u00e2k ve ideallerini dengelemeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaktad\u0131r. \u0130nsanlar sizin beklentilerinize cevap vermiyor, \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fclerinize uymuyorsa, biraz ba\u011f\u0131\u015flay\u0131c\u0131 olun. Unutmay\u0131n, belki siz de onlar\u0131n \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fclerine uymuyorsunuz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kaynak: Richard Conarroe – Y\u00f6netimin Alt\u0131n Kurallar\u0131<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Asla, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n da sizin kurallar\u0131n\u0131za g\u00f6re davrand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeyin. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131n\u0131 y\u00fcr\u00fctenler kurallara g\u00f6re hareket edenlerdir. Hakl\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z, i\u015f hayat\u0131nda \u00e7ok say\u0131da h\u0131rs\u0131z, yalanc\u0131, doland\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 ve d\u00fczenbaz vard\u0131r. Bu ki\u015filer, genellikle davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 o anl\u0131k ki\u015fisel \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131na g\u00f6re de\u011fi\u015ftirirler.Yine de, i\u015f hayat\u0131nda \u00e7o\u011funlukla kurallara g\u00f6re oynamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131l\u0131r. Sorun, herkesin kural\u0131n\u0131n farkl\u0131 olmas\u0131d\u0131r. Futbol ve voleybol gibi oyunlar\u0131n oyuncular\u0131 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1024"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1024"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1024\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1087,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1024\/revisions\/1087"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1024"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1024"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1024"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
Bu mant\u0131ks\u0131z varsay\u0131m \u015f\u00f6yledir:<\/strong> “Falanca filancaya \u015funlar\u0131 \u015funlar\u0131 yapmay\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeyece\u011fime g\u00f6re, falanca filanca da bana bunlar\u0131 yapmay\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmez.” Sonra o ki\u015fi, sadece o d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmedi\u011finiz i\u015fleri size en beklenmedik anda yapmakla kalmaz, hareketlerinde kendini tamamen hakl\u0131 g\u00f6rerek zarara bir de hakareti ekler. \u0130\u015fte yine; onun kurallar\u0131, sizin kurallar\u0131n\u0131za kar\u015f\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bu ger\u00e7e\u011fe, \u015fu kurallara uyarak uyum sa\u011flayabilirsiniz:<\/strong>
1.<\/strong> Birlikte i\u015f yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ki\u015fileri kafan\u0131zda iki gruba ay\u0131r\u0131n. Oyunu kendi kurallar\u0131na g\u00f6re oynayan \u00e7o\u011funluk ve tek kural\u0131 kendi \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131 olan az\u0131nl\u0131k. Bu ikinci grubu dikkatle izleyin. Onlardan gelecek her \u015feye kar\u015f\u0131 haz\u0131rl\u0131kl\u0131 olun.
2<\/strong>. \u00c7o\u011funluk grubundaki herkesin kurallar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. Onlara sormakla yetinmeyin! Size s\u00f6yleyecekleri, uygulamas\u0131 gereken kurallard\u0131r, ger\u00e7ekte uygulad\u0131klar\u0131 de\u011fil. Tam tersine, davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131na bakarak, kurallar\u0131n\u0131 ke\u015ffedin.
3<\/strong>. Kendi kurallar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 g\u00f6zden ge\u00e7irin. Ge\u00e7erli, yap\u0131c\u0131 ve tutarl\u0131 olmalar\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flay\u0131n. Kafan\u0131zda, daha iyisi ka\u011f\u0131t \u00fczerinde a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a s\u0131ralay\u0131n. Kurallar\u0131n\u0131za sad\u0131k kal\u0131n ama iyi bir neden g\u00f6r\u00fcnce, de\u011fi\u015ftirin.
4.<\/strong> \u00c7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ki\u015filer, daha kolay ve de\u011fi\u015fik prensipler benimsedi diye, ki\u015fisel inan\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131zla uzla\u015fmaya kalkmay\u0131n. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131ndan elde edilecek en b\u00fcy\u00fck memnuniyet, sadece kazanmakla de\u011fil, fakat, kendi kurallar\u0131n\u0131zla kazanmakla sa\u011flan\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n