Herkesin amac\u0131 farkl\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130\u015f yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ki\u015filerin amac\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenin. insanlar \u00e7ok garip nedenler y\u00fcz\u00fcnden \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131nda, paran\u0131n \u00f6tesinde onlar\u0131 y\u00f6nlendiren \u015feyler de vard\u0131r. Hepimizin \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma bi\u00e7imini, bir dizi istek, ihtiya\u00e7 ve h\u0131rs y\u00f6netir. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n ama\u00e7 ve d\u00fcrt\u00fcleri, hemen hemen s\u0131n\u0131rs\u0131zd\u0131r. Size pek budalaca gelenler, ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n kafas\u0131nda b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131yabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Her g\u00fcn i\u015f yerinizde yap\u0131p s\u00f6ylediklerinizin \u00e7o\u011fu, birlikte \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ki\u015filerin ama\u00e7lar\u0131yla \u00e7eli\u015fir. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 y\u00f6nlendiren g\u00fc\u00e7lere ters d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz gibi onlara katk\u0131da da bulunursunuz. Bazen s\u00fcrt\u00fc\u015fmelerden ka\u00e7\u0131nmaya olanak yoktur. Yine de ne yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 bilmeniz gerekir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n
Ki\u015filerin \u00e7\u0131kar g\u00f6zetti\u011fini hat\u0131rlayarak, her \u015feyi halledebilseydik ne iyi olurdu de\u011fil mi? O zaman insanlar\u0131, belirli ve de\u011ferli bir amaca y\u00f6nelik, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc, tek beyin halinde d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilen, m\u00fckemmel ve uyumlu ekipler halinde toplayabilirdik.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ne yaz\u0131k ki, bu konu o kadar basit de\u011fil. Bunun i\u00e7in, herkesin ne \u00e7e\u015fit bir \u00e7\u0131kar pe\u015finde oldu\u011funu bilmeniz gerekir. Ki\u015fi bir i\u015fi, hangi ama\u00e7lar\u0131n bir araya gelmesiyle neden ve ni\u00e7in belirli bir \u015fekilde yapmaktad\u0131r? \u0130stedi\u011finizi, ona istedi\u011finiz bi\u00e7imde yapt\u0131rabilmeniz i\u00e7in, hangi d\u00fc\u011fmesine basmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Fark\u0131nda olmadan insan\u0131n temel isteklerini engellerseniz, onun de\u011ferini de yok etmi\u015f olursunuz. Ama temel isteklerini yerine getirmesine yard\u0131mc\u0131 olursan\u0131z, onu daha \u00e7ok te\u015fvik edersiniz. Ki\u015filerin i\u015flerinden ne bekledikleri konusunda varsay\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131z olabilir. Hemen hemen herkes para, takdir, ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131n getirdi\u011fi gurur ve toplumsal y\u00f6nden onay sa\u011flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in i\u015f hayat\u0131nda \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaktad\u0131r. Ama bu noktadan sonra hedefler de\u011fi\u015fmeye ba\u015flar. \u0130\u015f adamlar\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131na neden olan \u015feylerin niteli\u011fini, stilini, \u00e7e\u015fidini ve tipini s\u0131ralamaya kalksak Yukar\u0131daki liste, geni\u015f bir y\u00f6netici kitlesinin \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma nedenleri \u00fczerinde yap\u0131lan bir ara\u015ft\u0131rmaya dayand\u0131r\u0131larak ve her etken \u00f6nem derecesine g\u00f6re s\u0131ralanarak haz\u0131rlanabilirdi. Ama bu da amac\u0131m\u0131za ters d\u00fc\u015ferdi. Biz genel say\u0131larla de\u011fil, o, \u015fu, bu ve beraber \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00f6teki ki\u015filerin ortak ve e\u015fi g\u00f6r\u00fclmeyen hedeflerinden s\u00f6z ediyoruz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00c7evrenizdeki ki\u015filerin arzu ve ama\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 ke\u015ffetmek ve onlar\u0131 \u00f6nemine g\u00f6re s\u0131ralay\u0131p bir liste yapmak sizin g\u00f6revinizdir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n B\u00fcy\u00fck bir olas\u0131l\u0131kla, ki\u015finin ama\u00e7 ve arzular\u0131n\u0131n karma\u015f\u0131k bir \u00f6zellik ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ke\u015ffedeceksiniz. Ama genellikle bireye h\u00e2kim olan ya da \u00f6zel ama\u00e7lard\u0131r. As\u0131l \u00f6nemli iki \u00fc\u00e7 ama\u00e7la ilgilenip, di\u011ferlerini g\u00f6z ard\u0131 edebilirsiniz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0130nsanlar\u0131n ama\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 saptamak bazen kolay, bazen de olduk\u00e7a zordur. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ki\u015filerin kendilerine bile itiraf edemedikleri gizli ihtiya\u00e7 ve arzular\u0131 olabilir. Onlar\u0131n bu isteklerden utanmalar\u0131, bunlar\u0131n hayatlar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6nemli birer \u00f6\u011fesi olma ger\u00e7e\u011fini de\u011fi\u015ftirmez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n insanlar\u0131 \u00fczmeden bu ger\u00e7ek ve gizli ama\u00e7lar\u0131 ortaya \u00e7\u0131karmay\u0131 ba\u015far\u0131rsan\u0131z, onlar\u0131 harekete ge\u00e7irebilece\u011finiz potansiyel g\u00fc\u00e7 depolar\u0131n\u0131n anahtar\u0131n\u0131 da bulmu\u015f say\u0131l\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 istek ve ama\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k se\u00e7ik, dolays\u0131z olarak belirtir. Konu\u015fmalar\u0131nda s\u00fcrekli paradan s\u00f6z eden birinin, b\u00fcy\u00fck bir ihtimalle hedefi parad\u0131r. \u00dcnvanlardan ho\u015flanan birinin, egosunu tatmin etmeye ihtiyac\u0131 vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Unutmaman\u0131z gereken bir nokta da, insanlar\u0131n istek ve hedeflerinin de\u011fi\u015febilir olu\u015fudur. Hedeflere ula\u015f\u0131ld\u0131k\u00e7a, ortaya yenileri \u00e7\u0131kar. Egosuyla yola \u00e7\u0131kan biri o \u00fcnvana kavu\u015ftuktan sonra, yeni zevkler edinip ba\u015fka arzulara y\u00f6nelebilir. Kendi arzular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 tatmin ederken, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n isteklerini de yerine getirmiyorsan\u0131z, ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131z s\u0131n\u0131rl\u0131 kalmaya mahk\u00fbmdur. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n hedef ve isteklerine ald\u0131r\u0131\u015f etmezseniz, neden size yard\u0131m etsinler?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015finin ama\u00e7 ve isteklerini anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmazsan\u0131z, adam\u0131n bamteline bas\u0131p sinirlerini bozars\u0131n\u0131z. Hem de, verdi\u011finiz zarar\u0131n fark\u0131na bile varmadan. <\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Kaynak: Richard Conarroe – Y\u00f6netimde alt\u0131n kurallar.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Herkesin amac\u0131 farkl\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130\u015f yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ki\u015filerin amac\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenin. insanlar \u00e7ok garip nedenler y\u00fcz\u00fcnden \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131nda, paran\u0131n \u00f6tesinde onlar\u0131 y\u00f6nlendiren \u015feyler de vard\u0131r. Hepimizin \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma bi\u00e7imini, bir dizi istek, ihtiya\u00e7 ve h\u0131rs y\u00f6netir. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n ama\u00e7 ve d\u00fcrt\u00fcleri, hemen hemen s\u0131n\u0131rs\u0131zd\u0131r. Size pek budalaca gelenler, ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n kafas\u0131nda b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131yabilir. Her g\u00fcn i\u015f yerinizde yap\u0131p s\u00f6ylediklerinizin […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1019"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1019"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1019\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1088,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1019\/revisions\/1088"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1019"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1019"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1019"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
bu kitap yetmeyecektir. O y\u00fczden, rastgele \u00f6rnekler verece\u011fim.
*(Somut \u00d6d\u00fcller)
<\/strong>Para ya da kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131.Baz\u0131lar\u0131 i\u00e7in, ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 g\u00fcn\u00fcn ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131lad\u0131ktan sonra para \u00f6nemini yitirir. Kimileri i\u00e7inse, belli bir rahatl\u0131\u011fa kavu\u015ftuktan sonra, para ama\u00e7 olmaktan \u00e7\u0131kar. Ve elbette baz\u0131lar\u0131 da, servetlerine servet katmak i\u00e7in b\u00fct\u00fcn \u00f6m\u00fcrlerini kendilerini paralayarak ge\u00e7irir.
*(Ego Tatmini)
–<\/strong>Mevki veya mevki sembolleri.
–<\/strong>\u015e\u00f6hret, ya da bilinen bir ba\u015far\u0131. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 i\u015fleri sayesinde \u00fcnl\u00fc ki\u015filerle, ya da \u00fcnl\u00fc \u015firketlerle temas halinde olduklar\u0131 i\u00e7in \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r.
–<\/strong>Hayranl\u0131k, ya da en az\u0131ndan \u00e7evrenin ve i\u015f arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n sayg\u0131s\u0131.
–<\/strong>Prestij ve \u00fcn.
–<\/strong>\u00dcnvan.
–<\/strong>Onaylanma ihtiyac\u0131.
–<\/strong>Yapabildiklerini kan\u0131tlamak i\u00e7in.
–<\/strong>A\u015fa\u011f\u0131l\u0131k duygusunu yenmek i\u00e7in.
*(Toplumsal Temaslar)
–<\/strong>Dostluk ve arkada\u015fl\u0131k.
–<\/strong>Yaln\u0131zl\u0131ktan kurtulmak.
–<\/strong>Dedikodu f\u0131rsat\u0131. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 i\u00e7in bir i\u015fin de\u011feri, onlara \u015fik\u00e2yet edecekleri bir konu ve \u015fikayette bulunabildikleri birilerini verdi\u011fi i\u00e7in y\u00fcksektir.
–<\/strong>M\u00fcstakbel e\u015f ya da hedefteki ki\u015fi ile temas.
*(Yarat\u0131c\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n ifadesi.)<\/strong>
–<\/strong>\u0130lgin\u00e7 bir i\u015f.
–<\/strong>Ba\u015far\u0131yla hissedilen gurur.
–<\/strong>Ki\u015fisel a\u015famalar ve geli\u015fmeler.
–<\/strong>Kendini belirtebilme.
–<\/strong>Merak. Pek \u00e7ok ki\u015fi sadece bu neden y\u00fcz\u00fcnden ilgin\u00e7 yerlere yolculuk imk\u00e2n\u0131 veren i\u015flerde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 ister. \u0130kinci bir neden de mevkidir.
*(Atakl\u0131k ya da Yar\u0131\u015fma Arzusu)<\/strong>
–<\/strong>Tek adam\/kad\u0131n olma iste\u011fi.
–<\/strong>Rekabet ya da m\u00fckemmel olma ihtiyac\u0131.
–<\/strong>S\u0131rf kazanm\u0131\u015f olmak i\u00e7in.
*(Ka\u00e7\u0131\u015f)<\/strong>
–<\/strong>Sorunlar\u0131ndan ka\u00e7mak i\u00e7in. \u00c7o\u011fu ki\u015fi i\u00e7in i\u015f hayat\u0131nda bulunmak, \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fclerinden, ac\u0131lar\u0131ndan, endi\u015fe ve sorunlar\u0131ndan kurtulman\u0131n bir yoludur.
–<\/strong>Toplumsal bask\u0131lardan ka\u00e7mak i\u00e7in.
–<\/strong>Baz\u0131 faaliyetlere kat\u0131lmamak i\u00e7in. Kimileri \u00f6zellikle kad\u0131nlar, baz\u0131 faaliyetlere kat\u0131lmamak, \u00f6rne\u011fin \u00e7ocuk bezi de\u011fi\u015ftirmemek, kul\u00fcp toplant\u0131lar\u0131na girmemek, partilerde boy g\u00f6stermemek i\u00e7in i\u015f hayat\u0131na girerler.
–<\/strong>Gidecek bir yeri olsun diye. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 i\u015fe gitmekten ve ge\u00e7 vakitlere kadar
i\u015fte kalmaktan ho\u015flan\u0131r. B\u00f6ylece daha k\u00f6t\u00fc bir yerden uzak kalm\u0131\u015f olurlar. Ev gibi…
–<\/strong>Cezalardan kurtulmak i\u00e7in.
–<\/strong><\/em>Kural, denetim ve s\u0131n\u0131rlamalardan kurtulmak i\u00e7in. \u00d6rne\u011fin, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir \u015firketin ba\u015fkan\u0131, sendikal\u0131 olman\u0131 s\u0131n\u0131rlamalar\u0131ndan kurtulmak i\u00e7in i\u015f\u00e7ilerle iyi ili\u015fkilere girmeye \u00f6zen g\u00f6sterebilir.
–<\/strong>Tembellik. Bu, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc ve pek iyi anla\u015f\u0131lmayan bir hedeftir. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 i\u015ften ger\u00e7ekten nefret ettikleri ve ondan kurtulmak istedikleri i\u00e7in canla ba\u015fla \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. \u00c7eli\u015fkili bir durumdur bu.
–<\/strong>Ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k ihtimalinden ka\u00e7mak i\u00e7in.
–<\/strong>\u00c7al\u0131\u015fmad\u0131klar\u0131 i\u00e7in su\u00e7luluk hissetmemek i\u00e7in.
–<\/strong>Normal bir \u015fey oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 i\u00e7in \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak d\u00fcnyan\u0131n en do\u011fal i\u015fidir. Ba\u015fka bir se\u00e7ene\u011fi ak\u0131llar\u0131ndan bile ge\u00e7iremezler. –<\/strong>Can s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131s\u0131ndan kurtulmak i\u00e7in. Bu, insanlar\u0131n \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma nedenlerinin en s\u0131k rastlananlar\u0131ndan biridir. Uzun s\u00fcre i\u015fsiz kalm\u0131\u015f yada emekliye ayr\u0131lm\u0131\u015f birine sorun; beni do\u011frulayacakt\u0131r.
* (Rahatl\u0131k)<\/strong>
–<\/strong>G\u00fcven.
–<\/strong>D\u00fczenli \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma. Belirli bir program ve d\u00fczen i\u00e7inde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fman\u0131n getirdi\u011fi b\u00fcy\u00fck bir rahatl\u0131k vard\u0131r.
–<\/strong>Huy ya da al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k halini alm\u0131\u015f refleksler.
–<\/strong>Zevkli bir hayat tarz\u0131.
–<\/strong>G\u00fczel \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma ko\u015fullar\u0131.
–<\/strong>Kar\u015f\u0131 cinsle tan\u0131\u015fma ihtimalinin y\u00fcksek olmas\u0131.
*(G\u00f6rev)<\/strong>
–<\/strong>Sorumluluk gibi olgun duygular.
–<\/strong>Kendini cezaland\u0131rma. ”Bundan b\u00f6yle aln\u0131n\u0131n teriyle ekme\u011fini kazanma…”
–<\/strong>Kendilerini \u00f6yle g\u00f6rd\u00fckleri i\u00e7in. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 belirli bir i\u015fte, belli bir \u015fekilde \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Bunu benimsemi\u015flerdir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc babalar\u0131 da ayn\u0131 \u015feyi yapm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.
–<\/strong>Asil nedenlerden dolay\u0131… \u0130nsanl\u0131k u\u011fruna, milli savunmaya katk\u0131da bulunmak, ya da daha iyi bir d\u00fcnya yaratmak i\u00e7in. Bu duygudan hepimiz de bir par\u00e7a vard\u0131r ama, i\u015f hayat\u0131nda sadece b\u00f6ylesine asil nedenler y\u00fcz\u00fcnden \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlar\u0131n say\u0131s\u0131 \u00e7ok azd\u0131r.
*(Ki\u015filikteki Garip E\u011filimler)
–<\/strong>Sald\u0131rganl\u0131k d\u00fcrt\u00fcs\u00fc.
–<\/strong>Mistik nedenler. \u00c7o\u011funlu\u011fun, i\u015flerini, “sesler”, “bat\u0131l inan\u00e7lar” ve “i\u00e7ten gelen bir sesle” idare etmesi, \u015fa\u015f\u0131rt\u0131c\u0131 bir ger\u00e7ektir. Sayg\u0131n bir y\u00f6netim dan\u0131\u015fman\u0131 zay\u0131f bir an\u0131nda yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 itirafta, pek \u00e7ok i\u015f karar\u0131n\u0131 ve b\u00fcy\u00fck \u015firketlerden olu\u015fan m\u00fc\u015fterilerine verdi\u011fi y\u00fcksek fiyatl\u0131 tavsiyeleri, g\u00fcnl\u00fck gazetedeki y\u0131ld\u0131z fal\u0131na bakarak belirledi\u011fini s\u00f6yleyerek herkesi \u015fa\u015f\u0131rtm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bunu ba\u015farabilmek i\u00e7in psikolog olman\u0131za da gerek yok. G\u00f6z kulak kesilip biraz \u00e7evrenizde olup biteni g\u00f6rmeniz ve dinlemeniz yeterlidir. \u00d6zellikle de dinlemeniz…<\/p>\n\n\n\n