\u0130\u015f, bir tek neden y\u00fcz\u00fcnden vard\u0131r: Kendisiyle u\u011fra\u015fan ki\u015filerin bazen sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131, bazen sa\u011fl\u0131ks\u0131z h\u0131rs ve \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131n\u0131 tatmin etti\u011fi i\u00e7in. Bu ger\u00e7e\u011fi biraz yumu\u015fatmaya, tatland\u0131rmaya kalk\u0131\u015f\u0131n, kendinizi aldat\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130\u015fin toplumdaki rol\u00fc \u00fczerine bir alay s\u00f6z s\u00f6ylenmi\u015ftir: Amac\u0131 i\u015f temin etmektir. Amac\u0131, topluma hizmet etmektir, m\u00fc\u015fterilerinin ihtiya\u00e7 ve isteklerini yerine getirmektir, vesaire… Hepsi palavra! \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131 fedakarl\u0131kla d\u00f6nmez. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131, para ve zaman\u0131n\u0131 yat\u0131ranlar\u0131n h\u0131rs ve \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131yla s\u00fcrer gider.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n
Yukardaki s\u00f6zlerin kapitalizmin k\u00f6t\u00fc yanlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6zetleyen Karl Marks’tan al\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 san\u0131yorsan\u0131z, beni yanl\u0131\u015f anlad\u0131n\u0131z demektir. Her \u00e7e\u015fit grupta, onlar\u0131 bir arada tutan bir \u015feyler vard\u0131r. Aile \u00fcyeleri, birbirlerini sevdikleri i\u00e7in g\u00f6revlerini yerine getirirler. Sosyal kul\u00fcpler, e\u011flence i\u00e7in kurulmu\u015ftur. Dinler, \u00f6teki d\u00fcnyadaki nimetler i\u00e7in insanlar\u0131 \u00e7\u0131karlardan ar\u0131nd\u0131rarak bir araya getirmeyi buyurur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130\u015f d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131 kayna\u015ft\u0131ran tutkal, ki\u015filerin kat\u0131ks\u0131z \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131d\u0131r. Hi\u00e7 kimse sevdi\u011finden ya da hobi olsun diye i\u015f hayat\u0131na at\u0131lmaz. \u0130\u015f d\u00fcnyas\u0131, vaat edilen gelecekteki zaferler ve nimetler \u00fczerine d\u00f6nmez. \u00d6d\u00fcl ve ba\u015far\u0131lar burada ve \u015fimdi kazan\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130\u015f d\u00fcnyas\u0131ndan s\u0131k s\u0131k orman diye s\u00f6z edilir. Uygun bir tan\u0131mlamad\u0131r bu. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131, do\u011fal bir \u00e7evrenin mekanik, geli\u015fmi\u015f bir bi\u00e7imidir. Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir orman, i\u00e7inde ya\u015fayan do\u011fal varl\u0131klar i\u00e7in de yararl\u0131d\u0131r. Her t\u00fcr, s\u00fcrekli rekabet ve m\u00fccadeleyle ayakta kalabilir. Orman\u0131n kendisi de, yay\u0131lmak ve \u00e7o\u011falmak i\u00e7in gerekli olan kaynaklar y\u00fcz\u00fcnden rekabet eden b\u00fct\u00fcn ya\u015fam bi\u00e7imlerinin, dengeli ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131yla sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 kal\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130\u015f orman\u0131nda da, ayn\u0131 do\u011fal kurallar ge\u00e7erlidir. Bu kurallara, en iyinin ayakta kalabilmesi de dahildir. Siz ve ben, mecbur oldu\u011fumuz i\u00e7in de\u011fil, istedi\u011fimiz i\u00e7in i\u015f d\u00fcnyas\u0131nday\u0131z. Zaman\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 kullan\u0131p hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 kazanabilece\u011fimiz pek \u00e7ok ilgin\u00e7 ve zevkli yol bulabilecekken, bize verdi\u011fi, ya da vaat etti\u011fi b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6d\u00fcller y\u00fcz\u00fcnden i\u015f hayat\u0131n\u0131 se\u00e7tik. Ayn\u0131 zamanda, kendimizi tatmin etmenin en kolay yollar\u0131ndan biri de bu oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in. Bu nedenlerle i\u015f hayat\u0131na girmedinizse, vaktinizi bo\u015funa harc\u0131yorsunuz. Bunca didinmeye, m\u00fccadeleye Bir ekip hedefi saptad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda, ekipteki her \u00fcyenin kendi kendine ayn\u0131 soruyu sordu\u011funu bilin. Bir sat\u0131\u015f m\u00fcd\u00fcr\u00fc, \u015firketin ba\u015fkan\u0131na \u015fu soruyu sormu\u015f: “Bu y\u0131l\u0131n kotas\u0131n\u0131 doldurmalar\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flamak i\u00e7in, sat\u0131\u015f elemanlar\u0131m\u0131za nas\u0131l bir \u00f6d\u00fcl verebiliriz?” Ba\u015fkan da \u015fu cevab\u0131 vermi\u015f: “S\u00f6yle onlara, kotay\u0131 dolduran i\u015finden at\u0131lmayacak.” Bu olumsuz bir yakla\u015f\u0131md\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131nda s\u00fcrekli kullan\u0131l\u0131r. Siz ve ben s\u00fcrekli olarak, i\u015fimizi g\u00fcvenli\u011fimizi, durumumuzu, patronun onay\u0131n\u0131, m\u00fc\u015fterinin iyi niyetini, de\u011ferli bir ast\u0131, ya da kurallarla daha fazla k\u0131s\u0131tlanmadan \u00f6zg\u00fcrce \u00e7al\u0131\u015fabilme hakk\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 kaybetmekle tehdit ediliriz. Bizi tetikte tutan bu korku ya da olumsuz g\u00fc\u00e7t\u00fcr. Gev\u015fememize, kendimizi b\u0131rakmam\u0131za engel olan da yine odur. Oysa ki\u015fisel \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131n tam kar\u015f\u0131t\u0131 olan g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f, bu olumsuz yan\u0131 soyluluktan uzak ve baya\u011f\u0131 bulur. \u0130nsanlara, ki\u015fisel h\u0131rslar\u0131n\u0131 tatmin edebilecekleri b\u00fcy\u00fck bir \u00f6d\u00fcl kazanabilme f\u0131rsat\u0131 verin! \u00d6yle etkili bir g\u00fc\u00e7 yarat\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z ki, atomun \u00e7ekirde\u011fini par\u00e7alad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 san\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. Ki\u015fisel \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131n ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmaz bir ger\u00e7ek oldu\u011funu kabul eden, onun dinami\u011fini anlayan birey, bunu ekip \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131na da kanalize edebilirse, i\u015f hayat\u0131nda ba\u015far\u0131ya ula\u015f\u0131r. O, b\u00fcy\u00fck bir ihtimalle kendi ki\u015fisel \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131n\u0131 tatmin etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan biridir. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131n\u0131n b\u00fct\u00fcn iyi ya da k\u00f6t\u00fc yanlar\u0131, do\u011fal insan \u00f6zelli\u011fi olan ki\u015fisel \u00e7\u0131kar kayg\u0131s\u0131ndan kaynaklan\u0131r. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131 olmasa, ihanetler, i\u015f ahl\u00e2k\u0131na uymayan al\u0131\u015f veri\u015fler, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlar aras\u0131nda \u00e7eki\u015fme, \u00e7elmeleme ve ayak kayd\u0131rma oyunlar\u0131, h\u0131rs ve sabit fikir haline gelmesi, patron-\u00e7al\u0131\u015fan rekabeti, kand\u0131rmacalar ve aldatmacalar da olmazd\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ama ki\u015fisel \u00e7\u0131karlar olmaks\u0131z\u0131n, i\u015f hayat\u0131n\u0131n, \u00fcretken, \u00f6d\u00fcllendirici, tatmink\u00e2r, insan\u0131n boyutlar\u0131n\u0131 geni\u015fleten ve hayat veren bir g\u00fc\u00e7 olmas\u0131 da m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fildi. Daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc, daha zeki, daha farkl\u0131 ve daha istekli ki\u015fileri i\u015f hayat\u0131na \u00e7eken \u00f6zellik de, \u00f6nerdi\u011fi bu b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6d\u00fcller olsa gerekir. Sak\u0131n ha! Bir an i\u00e7in olsa dahi, i\u015f hayat\u0131nda herkesin kendi \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131 nedeniyle bulundu\u011funu akl\u0131n\u0131zdan \u00e7\u0131karmay\u0131n. Onlar, sizin ilerlemenize yard\u0131m etmek, \u015firketinizin geli\u015fmesine katk\u0131da bulunmak i\u00e7in de\u011fil, yaln\u0131z kendi ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131 i\u00e7in i\u015f d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131 se\u00e7mi\u015flerdir. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Kaynak: Richard Conarroe – \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131nda nas\u0131l ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olursunuz.<\/em><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u0130\u015f, bir tek neden y\u00fcz\u00fcnden vard\u0131r: Kendisiyle u\u011fra\u015fan ki\u015filerin bazen sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131, bazen sa\u011fl\u0131ks\u0131z h\u0131rs ve \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131n\u0131 tatmin etti\u011fi i\u00e7in. Bu ger\u00e7e\u011fi biraz yumu\u015fatmaya, tatland\u0131rmaya kalk\u0131\u015f\u0131n, kendinizi aldat\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. \u0130\u015fin toplumdaki rol\u00fc \u00fczerine bir alay s\u00f6z s\u00f6ylenmi\u015ftir: Amac\u0131 i\u015f temin etmektir. Amac\u0131, topluma hizmet etmektir, m\u00fc\u015fterilerinin ihtiya\u00e7 ve isteklerini yerine getirmektir, vesaire… Hepsi palavra! \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131 fedakarl\u0131kla […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[16],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1014"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1014"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1014\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1075,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1014\/revisions\/1075"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1014"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1014"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/aslantozcan.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1014"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
de\u011fmez. Ama, i\u015f hayat\u0131na girme nedeniniz buysa, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n da ayn\u0131 bencil neden y\u00fcz\u00fcnden i\u015f d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda bulundu\u011funu sak\u0131n akl\u0131n\u0131zdan \u00e7\u0131karmay\u0131n. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131nda herkesle yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z temaslar\u0131n temelini, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131na dayanan davran\u0131\u015f ve ama\u00e7lar\u0131 olu\u015fturmal\u0131d\u0131r.
Birisinden bir \u015fey yapmas\u0131n\u0131 istedi\u011finizde, adam\u0131n kendi kendine “Bu i\u015fte benim \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131m ne olabilir?” diye sordu\u011funu unutmay\u0131n.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u015eirketinizde bir \u015fey olduysa, ya da bir \u015feyler de\u011fi\u015ftiyse, olayla ilgili herkesin bilin\u00e7li olarak ya da bilin\u00e7alt\u0131nda, kendi kendine “Bu beni nas\u0131l etkileyecek?” diye sordu\u011fundan emin olabilirsiniz. Ki\u015fisel \u00e7\u0131karlar, i\u015f hayat\u0131ndaki en etkili g\u00fc\u00e7t\u00fcr. K\u00f6t\u00fcye kullan\u0131l\u0131rsa, hem \u015firket i\u00e7in, hem de ki\u015fi i\u00e7in felakete yol a\u00e7abilir. Ba\u015f\u0131bo\u015f b\u0131rak\u0131l\u0131rsa, kendi kendini dengeleyerek hem yararl\u0131, hem de zararl\u0131 olabilir. Ama do\u011fru y\u00f6nde kanalize edilirse, koordine edilip, y\u00f6nlendirilir ve dizginlenirse, ortak ama\u00e7lar\u0131 olan ki\u015fileri bir araya getirerek, onlara y\u00f6n vererek, yarat\u0131c\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n ortaya<\/strong> \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131 sa\u011flan\u0131rsa, \u00e7ok yap\u0131c\u0131 bir g\u00fc\u00e7 haline getirilebilir.<\/strong> Uyumlu ki\u015fisel \u00e7\u0131karlar, bug\u00fcn Amerikan i\u015f hayat\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fcnyan\u0131n en \u00fcretken ve yarat\u0131c\u0131 g\u00fcc\u00fc haline getirmi\u015ftir. Ki\u015fisel \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131n olumlu, ya da olumsuz yan\u0131n\u0131 kullanabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n